RUINATION.

hi blog its me, actually sane tomarry addict

so. look I love tomarry with the psychological horrors, unapologetically homicidal shit, intense complex characterisation yada yada. AUs are our thing. thing is it's hard to extricate oneself from the pro groomer proshipper shit that gets excused as being "write what you want no matter your conscious screaming at you that that's not a kink that's not okay". like adults who have been far removed from being a child seeing how the distance of having years past occurred are making vile fckin fics. and the point of tomarry is, yes, that they don't like each other at the start the ultimate how can we craft them to actually like / exist with each other amicably (or as amicably as the rating/plot goes?).

so find out my surprise when I saw this lovely AU which was really surprising in terms of how homey and comfortable it was with really, an ideal world where queer people are happy and you know actual good work environments in the stripper/exotic dancer world and overall really balanced between the dark insane tom M riddle moments and good relationships. but then they had to make H 17. ok not even brushing the weird "how did Bill hire him when he's under 18 and not verifying shit legally plus the club may very well get in trouble with a literal kid" with the tips of my fingers so: they had to make H dependent w/ the living situation which is so weird and them pointing out Tom is like James (that piece of shit wife beater child abuser cishet homophobe white man type of character) age so 40+ is. Ugh. It'd be so much better if harry was 22 or some shit like that. It's fine he lived with his parents alright and getting kicked out/homeless is a good plot device especially since it's reality for so many of us queer folk (10.10 had me thinking about it sm recently lol) but us not seeing any prolonged interactions with H's friends/actual long standing friendship/the possibility of couch surfing getting raised then immediately discarded going against the "H was hesitant to be in his debt" thing the fic brought up ... Weird as hell man. I don't even fucking care James is going to die by resident crazy TMR let him be but the power dynamics is insane. at least H has more agency than some other crap fics and a good mom.


also only fic writer tomarry fan I can trust fully is lightnng ant god bless. (that H raises V anon respond probably made me weep with how much it felt like the first sip of cold energising water in a parched desert) .


addendum-_man so many criminal assholes try to disguise how much they like thinking about young children getting abused and romanticising their urges for that shit and they're all gushing abt it to each other then turning back and looking at people like we are weird when we accidentally stumble upon their criminal shit. like ok if you're so anti recovery you're enrolling yourself in the same cycles of abuse in a space that you should curate better for your relaxation you don't get to hide behind the flimsy excuse that it's because you're traumatised. it isn't healthy for you when your support network/friends are into that shit regularly post about it doesn't view it as wrong. legitimately sets yourself back. and you don't listen to actual teens slash people who have fresher experiences to being the objects of interest. so like sorry that online community gets corrupted into breeding grounds for people like you who say it very publicly and loudly. bring forums back because at least yours separated n out of sight n we can't just randomly stumble upon when u clog tags n shit n get so many notes.


sigh im writing asean zombie harrymort


update: finishing up the chapters cause my brain won't quit on seeing this through and wow self awareness "child that I'm dating" & then tom going on a diatribe on how H should deal with his abusers as if he should prioritise tom's opinion as a Authority Figure on H's wellness (wowww the power dynamics are so starkly clear here). Like bro legit is reprimanding on how to treat your abusers and how one should or should not forgive them as if its isn't an intensely personal journey while not allowing H to explain why in full


update2.0: okay so he's now cutting him out to try to peer pressure H into thinking he's right/making H deliberately ignore H's own feelings so H can keep their relationship. God H is being manipulated and treated abusively rn wtv ure acting like a child and making the literal child try to placate your feelings on something that literally concerns that child and which he knows of more intimately than you considering he's been dealing with that "concern" his whole life. the story cpuld even end there if youd exclude some loose ends like 4 actual plain old declaration of feelings+parentals+H PERSONALITY AND FRIENDS ABD LIFE OUTSIDE OF TOM but the latter is just mayb personal irk so lol (introduction of tom's life to H formally; H leaning into tom's darkness; backstory being kidnapping; insight into tom's criminal activities/businesses)


update 3.0 wow the previous two made me look really dumb haha. I knew he was well emotional and shit making impulsive speeches and having his tongue wag that way because well he could have lost H recently but the in your face power dynamics were so shiver me timbers. but I knew their H is awesome so yeah standing firm and make that man grovel. the way they treated it as both parties were equally at fault is still crap though.